Happy Friday babes! As I type this, I am running late for brunch, and as such, I will keep this short. I recently stumbled upon the Blogmopolitan quiz series and I thought it'd be quite fun, so here goes!
* “I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self respect. And it's these things I'd believe in, even if the whole world indulged in wild suspicions that she wasn't all she should be. I love her and it is the beginning of everything.” ― F. Scott Fitzgerald*
P.S. - Being that I typed that at 3 am, I'm excusing the fact that I wrote fruits and vitamins instead of fruits and vegetables, because I really don't get enough of any of them. #oops
Football season is almost upon us, and even though I won't even be stateside to enjoy it, I thought I'd share my best advice bits with y'all. I know when I came in as a freshman, having never been to a college football game since I was in middle school, I was completely lost. I wasn't sure how people dressed or what people did, and it was a rough learning curve. As you'll probably already know, I go to LSU (Louisiana State University) in Baton Rouge, LA, which should tell you two things…1. SEC football (meaning we take it very seriously) and 2. It's freaking hot (meaning I've learned a few tips and tricks to make the most of the heat).
Here goes… Clothing
When it comes to choosing an outfit, I generally go for a dress. I say this because dresses are much less clingy and much more breezy than pants or shorts. However, I also often pair a cute skirt with a loose fitting top, and it's almost just as comfortable. My number one piece of advice outfit wise is to shoot for comfort first...don't wear a backless dress if you have to wear sticky boobs (you will sweat and then you'll have to fuss with them all day). Do not wear your high heel boots...do I even need to justify that? I generally pick easy things that don't require strapless bras, don't cling and have to be "fixed", and don't show sweat. I wouldn't recommend silk, wearing white anything, but especially bottoms, or the crepe material that wrinkles almost instantly. In the colder months (for the maybe 2 cold games that we get in LA), I love to wear a button down, riding boots, leggings/jeans, and a cute scarf. It's comfortable, warm, and totally functional, but still cute. It's also really easy to throw a puffer vest on top for extra warmth and pockets if need be! Comfort is key. The first time I gave in and wore jeans was probably my favorite game ever. When you aren't comfortable, you're not super confident and then you worry about that instead of having fun at the game...and trust me, that's no fun, so wear what you feel good in!
A few of my favorite game day outfits…
loooveeee Mattie's monogrammed bag *insert heart eyed emojis*
I usually stick to purple as I don't really like yellow or gold on my skin tone, but you can also mix neutrals in as well. I'd say pick one of your team's colors to run with and keep the rest pretty simple, unless of course, the dress/shirt/skirt already has both colors in it!
On the accessories front, keep it light. I don't really like big statement necklaces, especially when it's hot, so I tend to stick to my monogram necklace and/or pearls. They go with everything and don't agitate me all day. I also carry just a clutch or wristlet with the bare essentials...Chapstick/lipgloss, powder compact, ponies, bobby pins, my ticket, my Tiger Card, a credit card or a bit of cash, and my phone. I tend to carry aspirin too, just in case I have a headache during the game...that's seriously saved my good mood more than once. #alwaysaheadachebyhalftime
I have three words for you...Makeup Setting Spray. I will swear by that stuff until I die. I road tested it during the hottest sorority recruitment ever and I'll never go without it. I tend to keep my make up pretty natural on an everyday basis and game days are no different. It's generally pretty lucky if I put on eyeliner or a bit of eye shadow, just because I'm not going to impress anyone (HA HA, yeah right), I'm going to have fun, and I don't want to be touching that shizz up all day, know what I mean? I bring powder with me to touch up my nose or whatever if I sweat, but other than that, I just go heavy on the mascara and lip stain, and we're good to go. Use a matte foundation and you should be good for 12+ hours. Pro Tip: Don't forget sunscreen under your makeup and on your shoulders (at least)…that sunglasses tan doesn't look so hot come Monday morning classes.
Okay, we all know what goes on at tail gates, so I thought I'd pass on my best game day drinking advice (not that it's super inventive, but it must be said). 1. Eat a good breakfast. 2. Start the day with a water, not a beer. (Trust me on that one). 3. Don't drink anything if you aren't sure where it came from or what's in it. I know that sounds like I'm taking the fun out of it and I'm being a mom, but trash can punch is never a good idea. 4. Do the whole "never put your drink down or let it out of your sight thing." It's not worth taking a chance. 5. Pace yourself. I tend to switch to water or soda when I get into the stadium and that has helped me many a time. You don't realize how long of a day you've had and how hot it's been and how dehydrated your body is getting (no thanks to you, boxed wine) until you wake up the next morning and feel like you're dying...so just take it slow, you've got a long day ahead!
Apparently, this week is the week of fives. No, not in the "I'm actually going to blog five days a week" kind of way, but in the "I like lists and 5 items is enough to be impressive without being the work of 10" sort of way. These tips can be applied to both high school and college, but I'm talking mostly about my high school experience as I've been out for a bit and feel like I'm finally out of that stage in my life. #thankgod
Be nice…to everyone
As weird and ridiculous as this sounds to me now, I used to be very afraid to be nice to people. I mean, it's high school, it's cliquish, I get that, but when you get out of high school and look back, you will see just how irrelevant all of that really was. Say "Hi" to people in the hallways, ask people how their classes/days are going and actually genuinely care about the answer, talk to people who you aren't necessarily friends with, just because you never know how much that can make their day, and it sounds cliche, but it will really make yours too. I stuck to such a rigid group of friends in high school, and while I had fun and enjoyed my 4 years, I can't imagine how different it would have been if I was a more approachable person.
Join in/Attend as many things as you possibly can (and document it)
I went to lots of things in high school, but by my senior year I started to take things for granted and stopped going to every little thing. Now that I'm done, I really wish I hadn't. I also really wish I had more pictures with everyone at all of the little events that we went to, because my photo albums are seriously lacking.
Don't sweat the small stuff, enjoy it
I used to get so worked up about each individual grade and assignment, that I sometimes missed out on the other small things, like the awesomeness of getting to eat lunch with your best friends everyday or getting to do cool things like experiments and field trips. As much as I hated hearing it in high school, while your ACT and GPA are important when applying to colleges, once you get in, absolutely no one cares. The things you'll remember once you're out are the funny conversations had at pep rallys or the times spent hanging out at the lockers before class…make sure to be present for them.
Stay OUT of the drama
I get it. I was once called "Blair Waldorf of the South" and it was practically the greatest compliment ever, but it's really not worth it. You will actually look much cooler and more mature if you just move on from the drama of the day and act like you couldn't care less. Then people will feel like they're being immature and therefore way less cool than you and you never had to say or do anything you'll regret in about a week's time. You really don't want to look back and realize you spent lots of your time not being friends with someone because they made one rude comment or talked to the boy you liked for about a month. Butttt, because I know you will do as you please, follow these three rules : 1. never do your own dirty work, 2. NEVER leave a paper trail in the form of texts, emails, notes, or God forbid mix CDs, 3. never trash talk anyone at school. Say what you will at home behind closed doors, but in the words of Don Corleone himself (The Godfather is the best place for advice really) "Never tell anyone outside of the family what you're thinking."
Be who you are…and don't apologize for it.
Don't be dumb just because people think it's cool. Be smart, or funny, or wildly punk rock, or prim and proper prep, (or all of those at the same time) or whatever it is you want to be. And don't apologize for it. In my years since high school, I've realized that as I've embraced who I am and left people behind who didn't accept it or who didn't encourage my good traits (or those who encouraged my bad ones), I've been able to find people who are either just like me, or people who accept me for whoever I decide to be. I've also found that those people grow with me, because they don't see me as just one thing, or just one kind of person, we all grow up and change, but the difference is that we do it together, very graciously. So be who you are, even when it's hard, and see who encourages you and pushes you to be even better, and then keep them around forever.
Good luck with going back to school, whether it's college or high school or middle school! Enjoy it!
I'm being ridiculous, I know, and I'm honestly kidding (mostly), but if I'm also being honest, this is generally what happens when I spend way too much time on other people's social media and here are five reasons you really shouldn't do it...
1. It is 100% not helpful
You are going to do one of two things. A. You will end up crushing even harder because, seriously, how is he the only person to never have gone through an awkward phase? It's just not fair. Or B. You will really not like what you see, (I mean, I know it's 2009, but did he really think that was cute?), and it will just ruin the entire thing…but realistically, it's going to be A, and we all know it. He could've posted about Hitler being his idol and it still wouldn't ruin him, so get prepared.
2. Anxiety = through the roof
The amount of care and precision that goes into not liking a photo from 7 years ago is unprecedented. If I had put that much effort into school, I'd be at Oxford right now, I just know it.
3. You now know way too much
You really aren't supposed to know all about which teams he played for in little league or what foods were his favorite in 2007 because he posted about them once a week. It isn't healthy…and you can't recover from that if you accidentally reference it in conversation. #trustme
4. Hours of time are lost to the blackhole that is his social media
It always starts by "just checking" to see what's he been up to, (even though you know nothing new will be there), and then all of a sudden it's an hour later and you're scrolling his 2008 timeline. Overanalyzing every shady status, looking up every band and movie he's ever mentioned, and checking out every girl he's ever been photographed with is a serious problem…very impressive spy work, but a serious problem nonetheless.
5. You can't unsee any of it
Yes, that baby photo of him his mom #tbt'd 7 years ago is great and all, but what isn't so great is the way that picture will pop into your head every time you see him from then on. Or the 8th grade graduation picture, no matter how awkwardly adorable it is.
Social media stalking your crush is fun and everyone does it (#nojudgement), but you're really only making it worse for yourself. And you know it, so try to refrain…(I type as I log into Facebook).
Just for fun, I stalked myself, and found this gem. My oldest photo on Facebook. Check out that vintage timestamp and everything. Can I just say, I was a sophomore in high school…this is embarrassing…because I still look exactly like that.